Many bears out there are willing to maul you or perhaps steal your food and destroy your property. There is nothing particularly malicious in it. They are just being bears. But there is one bear, the meanest of them all, who may not touch a hair on your head, but will cut your self-esteem to shreds with a few well-placed words. He knows a hundred uncomplimentary names for fat people and pounces on self-doubt with the readiness of a practiced sadist.
I am not the meanest bear, but I know him, and he doesn’t like you.